How we feel and think have an immense impact on our daily lives. They regulate everything that we do in life.
Many of us walk around with a sachet of “feel” without even realizing it. Hint: those are the people who are overly emotional about everything. Yes, these are the same people who sometimes get hurt the most. They yearn for acceptance and seek inclusion whether from relatives or friends. What they seek is deeply rooted in their subconscious. Yet, they can’t find it in a bottle. No one can physically destroy it. Better yet, as a people, it is true that we can’t live without it and not feel like something is missing.
In that case, we seek it anywhere and everywhere like a stranded foreigner in a strange city who needs help finding his or her way back home. As a child, that expression is essential. As a teenager, we long for it more than ever. As an adult, we try to share it with our lover. However, although it is second nature to us and should be such a positive vibration, it doesn’t always come across that way.
You’ve probably deduced that I’m talking about love—but not just any love. I’m talking about the type of love that only brings a smile to your face and refreshes your heart. It’s a universal medicine that, once accepted, can nullify the many self-inflicted dis-eases that cripple many of us.
But have you seen how some people treat the one they supposedly love like refuse? What about those who are so desperate for love that they forget that real love starts with self-love?
Have you ever thought about how you love? Think some more…
Without a doubt, we experience love differently and show it in our own way. But there is one way that can’t be confused with this powerful energy. If it brings everything but happiness and tranquility then it’s definitely not the type of love that will benefit anyone. The purpose of love is to bring something, usually, of high vibration, into someone else’s life or one’s own life.
A person cannot constantly whisper in your ear how much he or she loves you and then in the next breath is selfish, manipulative, deceitful, and abusive. Does that sound healthy or like something that we should yearn for? What if the other person wants to keep you in a cocoon where you can’t grow and feel like you are just pacing on a running wheel? Is that healthy love? It rather sounds more like poisoning your soul. If that’s the medicine that we need then I’ll pass every time. What about you?
At what cost are you giving in to unhealthy love?
My book, Before SEVEN-THIRTY: Practical Ways to Empower Yourself and Save YOUR Relationship Before Giving Up, describes some of the hurtful deeds that couples should not thrust under the rug because they have nothing to do with true love. It is important that when in a relationship, we remember that healthy love is a blissful feeling rather than a depressing state. So it should not be too difficult to feel the difference between healthy and unhealthy love. If you can’t help but smile and feel such a wonderful connection to your significant other then you know what healthy love feels like. If you cannot wait to be by yourself most of the time because your significant other always brings out the worse in you then, yeah, you guessed it. There is nothing positive about unhealthy love. Yes, there are no accidents in life. An unhealthy love could be for you to learn how to ground yourself and to free yourself from toxic people. However, it doesn’t mean that you should just accept things as they are because you’re supposed to learn a lesson. Recognize an unhealthy love for what it is—a toxin, a dis-ease, a slow death. If the person in your life is not serving you in a way that elevates you or brings betterment into your home then what is his/her purpose in your life?
Unhealthy love: drama, hypocrisy, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and mental abuse. Healthier love is more like this: connectivity, support, caring, communication, compassion, unity, understanding, and empathy.
Check how you love and how you are being loved. Which is it, healthy or unhealthy?
Happy living,
