Are you in an “It’s always all about him or her” relationship? If so, there may be times when you wish you were single. This desire is not because you’re not ready for a serious relationship. On the contrary, you’ve healed your heart from past growing pains and have embraced your whole self. You’ve been doing your best. Like any other mentally and spiritually healthy person, you yearn for your relationship to blossom into a wonderful partnership.

However, as of late, you have noticed something rather atypical: your partner doesn’t care much about you but only about how you appease him/her. You suddenly feel like their wants and needs are always the primary concerns. Could the honeymoon really be over? You’re so exhausted from trying to do and to say the right thing that you’re left with very little strength—zero energy to tend to yourself.

Some men and women can be like a siphon, literally draining all the life out of you. Sadly, once they selfishly empty your cup, they forget or purposely refuse to refill it. There is no afterthought! They don’t care to reciprocate.

If a relationship is supposed to be a united and balanced affair, how did that magnificent ship miss your lighthouse?

Unfortunately, too many people take what a partner offers them for granted. A lover cannot change these people until they decide to make a change. Whatever they receive, whether it’s genuine generosity, care, or love, is often open to criticism. After all, how do you please someone who is always looking for something extra? It’s an exasperating endeavor!

An egocentric attitude is perilous to any relationship, no matter how much one tries to explain why he/she is that way. It is vital to have balance by doing things for each other, or else you risk breeding resentment, anger, dis-ease, stress, and distress.

If this article describes you, then seriously consider how your ways are affecting your relationship. It is time to be more thoughtful and appreciative of your partner.

As for you who can’t decide what to do, unless you’re happy with how things are, it’s time that you address this. Remember that sometimes a person is so used to doing things one way that they will have tunnel vision. If you want the relationship to last, then you must communicate how such behavior negatively affects you. It won’t serve you well to continue to deplete your energy. It’s expected that you’ll do nice things for your partner, but to please their every whim just so that you don’t get scrutinized, yet again, is another story.

You deserve to have someone who truly cares for your well-being. So is your partner willing and ready to give and not just sit there, waiting only to receive? What are you going to do about it?

Happy Living,

FINA ORIA